Happy Single Parent Day!

I have been a single mother for about eight years (really thirteen years if I include the time that the other parent worked away.)

I never expected or wanted to be a single mother. Even though it was forced on me, it was a decision I should have made myself long before. It ended up being the best for us. Daily life has been much easier and happier as a single parent family than it ever was while in that specific marriage. 

Once the shock settled in, it took some time freeing myself from the fear, pain, trauma and stigma caused by my strongly held beliefs about separation, divorce, and "broken" families. Beliefs and stereotypes about what is "best" for children, parents, society, and the world. Beliefs rooted in traditional, religious, cultural, family and economic systems. I had believed all those labels, statistics, negative associations and projected poor outcomes of single parent homes. But to my relief, and in my reality, I found they were simply not true.

I have different definitions now. I have different opinions about what really defines a family. And it may or may not be blood. Even the cliché, "Children NEED a father and a mother"? Not true. ALL children can thrive. Parented or orphaned. With both parents, with a single parent, with a grandparent, with a relative, with a foster parent, with a gay parent, with an adoptive parent, with LOVE. A single parent can also thrive.

Whether married or single, I wanted the best for my children. And I knew that in order to do the best for them, I had to take care of ME. I began the journey toward empowerment and that meant to let go of being a victim.

I have a different family now. It is not broken. My children do not come from a broken home. Our family is FIXED. It is stronger and peaceful. We are thriving. And all is well.

If you need help untangling a messy old painful belief system. If you need to recover from old relationships. If you need relief from suffering, and you are ready to let go of being a victim. If you want to stop using addictive things to numb your pain. Contact me. I use the most amazing techniques EVER to do these very things. Set yourself free. ❤️

Carol Christina