But I thought unconditional love was good?

When someone is consistently too nice or self-sacrificing in a relationship, it can have several negative effects on them:

1. Emotional Exhaustion: Constantly prioritizing another’s needs and desires can lead to emotional burnout. The individual may feel drained from trying to maintain peace and ensure the other’s happiness at the expense of their own well-being.

2. Loss of Self-Identity: Over time, a person who is excessively accommodating might lose sight of their own needs, desires, and interests. This can lead to a diminished sense of self, where their identity becomes intertwined with their role in the relationship rather than as an individual.

3. Resentment and Frustration: The individual may begin to harbor feelings of resentment and frustration as their own needs and boundaries are ignored. They might feel unappreciated or taken for granted, which can erode the foundation of the relationship.

4. Low Self-Esteem: If the person’s kindness and sacrifices are not acknowledged or reciprocated, they might start to question their own worth and feel inadequate. This can lead to lower self-esteem and a sense of being unworthy of genuine love and respect.

5. Difficulty Establishing Boundaries: A pattern of excessive giving can make it difficult for the person to set healthy boundaries in the relationship. They might struggle to assert their needs or say no, which can perpetuate a cycle of imbalance and unhealthy dynamics.

Overall, these experiences can significantly impact their emotional health and their ability to maintain a balanced, fulfilling relationship.