Success Stories

One of my favourite things someone has said after doing healing work with me is that she now feels, “Like I was never hurt.”

I love messages of appreciation, reviews, and testimonials that mention the successful results of the healing work. Here are some of my clients’ comments. This is why I do what I do:

You are so brilliant and talented.

Testimonial about healing after loss:

In order to tell my story of healing, I need to begin by sharing what I had and what I lost.

My Darling was the love of my life, the wonderful man of my dreams. He was literally everything to me, as was I for him. For over 46 years we had lived together, worked together, played together, worshiped together, laughed together, danced together, and loved together. We were part of each other, and we were best friends. Never was a woman loved and cherished more than I. He made me feel that I was beautiful, that I was smart and capable, and really, that I was perfect in every way. For him, I was all those things.

Then my world completely changed. The worst had happened. For the first few weeks I coped quite well. I was in shock. It was initially completely surreal… but then… the reality began to set in. I started becoming sadder and sadder. Oh, I tried hard to cope and to deal with my sorrow in a positive way, but I was gradually and steadily getting worse. I felt that my heart had broken in two. Not wanting to cause sadness for my parents and my family, I tried to put up a good front, while inside, I was dying. I was starting to have a physical pain in my middle each time I thought of my loss. I kept trying to tell myself and others that I was a happy, positive person and that I needed to be happy in order to survive. I knew that was true and a lot of the time I lived that happy way, but it was getting harder and harder. My bouts of private grief were getting longer and more draining.

During this time, Carol had let me know that when I was ready, she would be willing to help. I was reluctant… I wasn’t ready. It’s hard to understand why, but I felt that my sorrow was keeping him close to me. My sadness seemed necessary to show myself that I cared, that I loved him. I feared that letting go of my grief, would mean letting go of him. I WANTED to cry over sad songs, over sad movies. Songs or movies that weren’t sad at all… except to me, because they reminded me of my love and my loss. I really, really wanted to remain in this sadness. As crazy as it might sound, there was something comforting about suffering. However, remaining that way would have killed me.

Finally and thankfully, Carol and I both knew that I was ready. It took only 12 hours for the therapy and I can hardly believe the difference. My heart has healed. Now when I think of My Darling it is with thankfulness and peace, and with a deep abiding and comforting love. It is so incredibly much better this way. I did not need to remain in a state of sorrow to feel his love. Keeping the pain was not necessary. I can be happy and joyful, and I am. I know that I will never forget him and that he will always be a part of me.

Now, when I hear a beautiful love song, I have a precious memory of him holding out his arms as I come “running” for our dance together. The memory no longer evokes the overwhelming sadness that I felt before my healing. It brings happiness. Now, I can dance again, and I do, with dear friends who never make me feel like a “fifth wheel”. They make me feel like an individual, one who is wanted and cared about, for myself. It doesn’t matter to them that I am not a “couple”. It also doesn’t matter to me. I can see couples walking hand in hand, or couples waltzing close together on the dance floor, and I feel only happiness for them and their love for each other.

When I run into people, I really appreciate their kind concern for me. One of my old friends met Carol recently and told her that she was surprised that I looked so well. She said, “You know, she doesn’t really look like… well… like a grieving widow.” I’m glad!

An acquaintance of mine had recently lost his wife and he tried “grief counseling”. He said the counseling made him feel so much worse, that he had to discontinue. It was the type of counseling that keeps you in your pain, over and over again.

Carol Tozer’s therapy is much, much different. Her therapy is gentle and pain-free and sorrow-free. During my appointments, if I would even start to “feel my pain” she would quickly take me above it and then clear it. Then it was gone. It was done. That is so much better.

I am forever grateful for Carol. She is absolutely amazing. She has given me a new lease on life.

There is no fear… My Darling and I will always be together. We were, we ARE soulmates forever. He is happy in Heaven and in my heart…. and I am happy too. I have learned how important it is to receive help. Healing is wonderful!